Perspectives on the 9 Rules for Turning Endings into New Beginnings

9 Rules for Turning Endings into New Beginnings

Below are nine rules for improving your life found in the article above. In read you will find my perspective in red. 

1. Let the things you can’t control, GO. – Most things are only a part of your life because you keep thinking about them.  Positive things happen in your life when you emotionally distance yourself from the negative things.  So stop holding on to what hurts, and make room for what feels right.  Do not let what is out of your control interfere with all the things you can control.  Read The Success Principles. Cherie's perspective: When we fail to learn this rule we limit our future success. We allow ourselves to become trapped in a vicious cycle of negativity and pain. 
2. Accept and embrace reality. – Life is simple.  Everything happens for you, not to you.  Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.  For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else.  You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you do.  So pay attention to your outlook on life.  You can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice. Cherie's perspective: When we do not live in reality we often live in a false sense of security. Our growth as a human being is limited and we often miss opportunities that come our way. 
3. Change your mind. – Change is like breath – it isn’t part of the process, it is the process.  In reality the only thing we can count on is change.  And the first step toward positive change is to change your outlook.  Prepare for the positive.  Prepare for the new.  Allow the unknown to take you to fresh and unforeseen areas in yourself.  Growth is impossible without change.  If you cannot change your mind, you cannot change anything in your life.  Sometimes all you need to do is look at things from a different perspective. Cherie's perspective: Change is always good even it is painful. Change allows us to renew ourselves and often escape from negative patterns of thinking. Plus it is true, all acceptance of change in life begins in the mind first. 
4. Hold tight to the good things. – When life’s struggles knock you into a pit so deep you can’t see anything but darkness, don’t waste valuable energy trying to dig your way out.  Because if you hastily dig in the dark, you’re likely to head in the wrong direction and only dig the pit deeper.  Instead, use what energy you have to reach out and pull something good in with you.  For goodness is bright; its radiance will show you which way is up, and illuminate the correct path that will take you there.  ReadLearned Optimism.
5. Rest and regroup. – Strength isn’t about bearing a cross of grief or shame.  Strength is about choosing your path, living with the consequences, and learning from them.  Sometimes you do your best and end up with a mess.  When this happens, don’t be discouraged.  You tried.  That’s really all you can ever do.  You have not failed; you just learned what not to do.  So rest, regroup, and begin again with what you now know. Cherie's perspective: In life we must learn to take reprieves when necessary and quickly regain our momentum. Failure will happen and we must not become defeated after it occurs. It is better to use it as a springboard for better things.  
6. Take chances. – Making a big life change or trying something new can be scary.  But do you know what’s even scarier?  Regret.  So realize that most of your fears are much bigger in your mind than they are in reality; you’ll see this for yourself as soon as you face them.  Don’t let them stop you.  Live your life so that you never have to regret the chances you never took, the love you never let in, and the gifts you never gave out.  ReadThe Magic of Thinking Big. Cherie's perspective: Those who never take changes will most definitely feel like a hamster in a ball for the REST OF THEIR LIFE. To live a full life you must take chances! 
7. Keep climbing. – Every person who is at the top of the mountain did not fall there from the sky.  Good things come to those who work for them.  You gain confidence and grow stronger by every experience in which you truly push yourself to do something you didn’t think you could do.  If you are standing in that place of in-between, unable or unwilling to go backwards, but too afraid to move forward, remember that you can’t enjoy the view without being willing to climb. Cherie's perspective: You must work hard to obtain the goals you set for yourself in life. No one achieved greatness by standing on the bottom rung of a ladder. 
8. Appreciate what you have learned. – Nothing is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears.  Don’t regret your time, even the moments that were filled with hurt.  Smile because you learned from it and gained the strength to rise above it.  In the end, it’s not what you have been through that defines who you are; it’s how you got through it that has made you the person you are today, and the person you are capable of being tomorrow. Cherie's perspective: Reflection is key, regret is not necessary. All things truly happen for a reason-either to remind you of a lesson you haven't learned and/or to move you forward. 
9. Realize every step is necessary. – Nothing is ever wrong.  We learn from every step we take.  Whatever you did today was a necessary step to get to tomorrow.  So be proud of yourself.  Maybe you are not as good as you want to be, or as great as you one day will be; but thanks to all the lessons you’ve learned along the way, you are so much better than you used to be. Cherie's perspective: There are on shortcuts in life. Each step, whether enjoyable or not, must occur if you truly want to succeed in life.